Mental Game Archive

The Number 100 & the Time We Have

Posted November 21, 2013 By electrafi

100 Squats.

100 Kettlebell Swings.

100 Repetitions of an exercise of your choice.

What is it? you ask.

A warm-up? Can’t be a workout, can it?

100 years of age.

I don’t get it? you say.

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I’ve mentioned, as of late, my career (nursing) has been taking a lot of my time. Luckily, by choice. By a conscious, calculated set of choices I made.

I’ve had to make some adjustments and decisions recently with where I have been choosing to spend my time.

I love my website. I love fitness. I love real food, a bit too much? Smile with tongue out I love nursing. I love ER nursing, trauma nursing. I love helping others. I love my family. I love supporting up-and-coming businesses. I love connecting with all of you.

^Not in any particular order.

All of these things take time.

  • Behind the scenes on the website takes houuursssss.
  • Fitness takes time out of the day.
  • Food and cooking can take as little or as much time as you’d like.
  • Nursing has long shifts and odd hours – which naturally, as a glutton of punishmen, I love.
  • ER and trauma nursing is my passion, and a completely separate beast of its own.
  • Helping others. My MO. Can’t help others without spending time with them. Giving someone your time is one of the most VALUABLE gifts you can give. You never get that time back, they don’t either.
  • My family deserves my time and my undivided attention. Memories made with people you love are some of the best of the time spent in this life.
  • Up-and-coming entrepreneurs are some of my favorite people and businesses to support with my time. The passion they have for what they do makes time supporting them worth every minute.
  • Connecting with all of you is a blessing – one thing that takes time that I am very thankful for.

Time is a beautiful thing, that once it has been spent, you cannot get back. This is both a blessing and a curse. If you choose to spend your time wisely with only the best intentions in mind, it is a blessing. If you spend it without choice, “waste” it, it can be a curse. When older patients I have tell me “It’s hell getting old,” and “one day you’ll know too – I’m old now. Nothing works the way it used to.” I always respond with, “Unfortunately, the sands of time stop for no-one,” as I smile at them with empathy, but the inability to full understand. They always smile. They smile because they know better than I do how that feels. They smile because I understand enough that I will too, one day be old. I will too, one day need a helping hand. And I will too, hope that I have a nurse that takes that extra minute and gives me that extra smile if I have a need, as they do now. The more I think about it, the more I think I should take away “unfortunately” out of that statement I say often. It may not be unfortunate that the sands of time stop for no-one. Maybe it’s the best fortune we’ve been given. Maybe it’s given to make us realize how important the time we DO have is. Maybe it’s given to us to remind us to consciously decide what we’re filling our time with. Maybe it’s give to us to make us realize how important it is to see the positive, to help others, to smile, to be thankful. Maybe it’s really a very fortunate part of life.

A few months ago, I was spreading myself too thin. Going in too many directions. This caused stress, anxiety over “not getting done what I was supposed to,” on a to-do list made by me. I sat down with my rock, who helped me weigh out my options, different avenues I could take, and where I would be happiest, most successful (remember – success is whatever YOU define it to be). I have made many conscious choices that I will keep evaluating and tweak or completely change as necessary at that point.

A few choices I have made:

1. Nursing:

I have chosen to make an investment in an increased time commitment to my nursing career. I truly love nursing, I truly love ER and trauma nursing. I have a very large passion for what I do. I want to soak up every bit of knowledge I can about the field every day I work, I want to take it as far as I choose to take it. I want to continue to help save lives. I went into nursing after seeing my brother lacerate his spleen when we were younger. I took him to the ER. I saw them work on him, be compassionate to my best friend in the entire world on one of the worst days of his entire life. I saw them smile at him and joke with him, make him laugh. From this point forward I knew I wanted to be a nurse. I wanted and still want many things…

  • To be a nurse thrown into the most critical of situations.
  • To have the patients who were having the worst days of their lives.
  • To have the most difficult patients.
  • To have the most ornery patients.

To sum it up: Every day I continue to want to care for people on the worst days of their lives, help make them better, and put a smile on their face while I do that.

Many people want easy days at work. I want the hardest days. I want the most chaotic days. I want to have it all thrown at me. I want to make a difference in my patients’ lives. I want to make a difference in their family’s lives. I want to be the nurse that they remember made them smile while their arm was hanging off their body. I want to be the nurse that they remember holding their hand as their loved one passed. I want the good stories and the bad. I have many stories in my brain from the many ER nursing hours I have worked, and I cannot wait, each day, to gain more. Not to tell over the dinner table or to my nursing friends (although we all know an ER nurse has some wicked humor Winking smile), but because each story is a life touched. To me, this is something I have chosen to dedicate a lot of time to. I have chosen to push myself, put myself in situations and in the right situations to gain the knowledge and experience I have and want. This is important to me. That one smile, that one hand touch, that one look from the patient that knows I actually care, that I am there for them. That’s why I do this.

2. Company Relationships

I had an opportunity offered to me recently by a large company that wanted to have me as an ambassador. There’s no need to disclose names – I’m sure many of you can figure this out. It is a fantastic company with fantastic employees and fantastic product. I still have a great relationship with this company, believe in their mission, wish them nothing but the best, and may work with them at some point in the future if the opportunity and time is right for both parties. At this time, I have chosen not to sign on as an ambassador for many reasons. I want to stay authentic to me. I love supporting up-and-coming entrepreneurs, which I would have been unable to do. The passion the small business people have for what they do makes me feel that the time I spend on supporting these smaller brands sporadically is where my authenticity and my heart is at in regards to working with companies. I need to stay authentic to myself and to my readers and my values in order for this website to work. In order for me to be happy with what I’m doing. In order for me to stay true to my values and what I want to be and do and give in life. I hope that this does not disappoint anyone. From what I’ve learned, it’s so important to be honest, be real, be truthful, and authentic. When you do this, the response can only be positive, and you can only be happy with your choices. I wanted to share this with all of you because I am sure many of you have been wondering what was going on with that business relationship. Now you’re up to date. Open-mouthed smile I will continue to work with small brands, medium size brands, even some large brands, depending on the opportunity, the incentive for all of you, and each time will be on an individual basis. I love being able to review things for you, tell you things I’ve been loving lately. I’ve always done that and have chosen that that will not change.

3. My Site

I have chosen to continue my blog, my website, my social media channels, working with small brands. I love this site, I love sharing things with you. I love the release of writing things out. I love interacting with all of you on all of the social media channels, seeing how awesome you all are doing with your goals, answering your questions, asking you questions. You all inspire me daily, and I would never want to stop connecting in that way. I have chosen not to “promise” how many posts I’ll be writing. I have chosen not to “promise” how often I’ll be active online. Funniest thing has occurred. Even with my increased time and workload in relation to my nursing career, I have been posting more. Why? Because I took away the pressure I had on myself to “get posts done NOW.” That gave me writers block. Now that I’m back to writing because I want to share things with you and help you through life as I’m learning my own things, I’m back to posting more. No promises though Winking smile ! Back to being authentic hm? It’s a beautiful, beautiful thing.

4. Fitness

I will continue to work out. It is very important and I feel better when I do it. I will not dedicate hours every day like I once did. I simply do not have the time to do that, get adequate sleep, work more than one nursing job, and write here. I will work out at home, as I have been doing for almost a year now, with the equipment I have here. I will work out when I can, hopefully 3-4x/week. I will move when I can. Luckily, ER nursing is a profession where I never sit. I am thankful for that, and was part of the draw for me. This brings me to the number 100 I was talking about earlier. The beginning of november brought extra workload nursing-wise into my life, by my own choice, and I am very thankful for the extra work I sought out. That does mean less time for workouts. Every day in november I have done 100 repetitions of an exercise. Mainly squats or kettlebell swings. I have worked out on my off days, but those are few and far between.

I have made the time daily to do 100 repetitions of an exercise of my choice.

Sometimes it was 50 in the morning.

Sometimes 50 in the evening.

Sometimes 100 inbetween my first job and my second job.

Sometimes 25 here, 30 there, until I reach 100.

Meeting a small goal, daily, has brought confidence to me. It seems small, may seem silly. But having that goal, and accomplishing it, even in the midst of my self-created chaos, has created a calm in that chaos. Sweating will always be a huge part of my life, sometimes more time will be available, sometimes less. I will always make time for sweating. Even if it’s only 5 minutes before work and 5 minutes after a 12 hour shift. I will make it work, and am learning to be flexible with this. Being rigid makes it hard. I used to be rigid with my fitness, and that cause much pain when changes were needed. Being flexible in regards to fitting it in has decreased my stress levels two-fold.

5. Food

I will continue to eat healthy food. I have tried many diets, many nutritional approaches. I have come back to just eating real food, paleo-ish many times. No artificial anything, no sugar free anything, almost nothing processed. It’s what my body likes. It’s what my mind likes. It’s what tastes best to me. I eat a lot of meat – I try to do organic. I eat a lot of eggs – I always do organic/cage free. I eat a good number of veggies, both fibrous and non (sweet potatoes rock!). I eat veggies often through things like spirulina and wheat grass powders when I’m feeling veggie-lazy. Yes, it’s a term that I made up, but you know you’ve felt veggie-lazy at some point too! Smile with tongue out I eat a LOT of healthy fat. Coconut oil, avocado, egg yolks, chia seeds/hemp seeds, nuts sparingly that I’m not intolerant too (slowly healing some intolerances), cacao. I eat some fruits – dates, bananas, raisins. I eat things like larabars, ostrim sticks and protein powder when I’m on the go. I eat chocolate. Often. With no guilt Open-mouthed smile! I eat some gluten free bread from time to time, and some cottage cheese from time to time. Are those “paleo”? No. I’m not paleo. I just eat real food, that is paleo-ish. It’s how I explain it so people can visualize what I eat. It’s not something I’m rigid about anymore. Again, just like fitness, I used to be VERY rigid with my eating. Too rigid. It led to eating disorders and disordered thoughts about eating and deprivation and food. I now am not rigid. I’m flexible. I do stay away from trigger foods – which I will post about more soon – because sometimes moderation doesn’t work. Stay tuned for that post – it’s a GREAT one. I now eat when I’m hungry, stop mostly when I’m full (unless the chocolate just tastes soooo good Smile with tongue out). I eat more intuitively. I no longer count calories or macros. I eat generally high protein, high fat, and moderate/lower carb (but not LOW carb). I eat at least 2200 calories a day if I had to make a rough estimate. At one point I was lucky if I would let myself eat 1200. That was at least 1000 calories under maintenance. Not healthy. Not ok. And since, I’ve promised myself deprivation will never happen again. This is a zone where deprivation isn’t allowed. We work against deprivation. We work on love instead. I will continue to listen to my body and eat what makes me feel good, and stay away from things that make me feel bad. I will continue NOT to follow a “diet” or “nutrition group” because being rigid isn’t the way I want to spend the limited time I’ve given in this life. I also will continue to make fun recipes – I’ve been getting even more creative in the kitchen – plus it’s much more balanced with a holistic approach. You’ll love these new recipes I’ve got coming!

 

^Lasagna (left is “regular,” right is “healthified”) & a recent tasty meal of eggs, avocado & bacon!

6. Family

I will continue to spend time with my family. Memories we make with those we love are precious, one of the most amazing things about this life and the time we’re given. I have made a conscious effort and will continue to work on turning off electronics around my family. I used to see myself and my family sitting together, all on our phones. I am working not to look at my phone while I’m with the people I love. I spend most of any free time I have with my boyfriend and my brother. They’re my rocks, and I can’t be thankful enough for the blessings they are in my life. Time with them is something I’ll always make time for and value.

^The brother. Love him to pieces & couldn’t ask for a better best friend. Open-mouthed smile

7. Helping Others

I will always do everything I can to help others. It’s my MO. Remember no-one gets time back. Spend your time giving others what you would like them to give you. Smile at them, give them a helping hand, a penny at the register. Let’s bring back the willingness to help others. It’s a beautiful thing.

8. You

I will do my best to make time for you. I love hearing from all of you. I love your comments, I read EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. and try my best to respond. I love our interactions. I love answering your questions. Please reach out to me. I’m never too busy to try my best to reach all of you. I can’t promise a time-line on a response, or that it’ll be a long response, but I can promise that I’ll read your email, your comment, and I will do my best to respond!

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I work hard on living my life by intention.

Living through my choices.

Not letting life pass me idly by.

Working in an ER makes me think twice about how much time I have in this world.

We never know when it’s our time.

We have to choose to make our time what we want it to be and fill our time with what we want it to be filled with.

I’ve added 100 repetitions of an exercise to my days in november. It’ll probably continue even after november’s time passes.

None of us know if we’ll reach 100 years of age.

Or really, even if we’ll have tomorrow.

I do know though, that with the days I am blessed and the time I am given…

  • I am making conscious choices.
  • I am helping others.
  • I am smiling.
  • I am trying very hard to live life without judgement.
  • I am doing what I think is right at any given time. Not doing things because it’s easy, but doing things because it’s the right thing to do.
  • I am spending time I have with those I love.
  • I am living in a language all can understand…

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Tell me…

  • I cannot wait to hear what you’re doing with the time you’re blessed.

Please share?

  • Also – will you join me in 100 repetitions every day? Working on a hashtag now… ideas? Open-mouthed smile
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How to: Learn to Love Yourself in 10 Steps

Posted October 4, 2013 By electrafi

Morning Rockstars! Happy Monday! I want to share something I posted on my Facebook page at the end of last week, talk about it, and expand on it.

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“Make sure you take a deep breath this morning and remember how awesome you are. Remember to love yourself – no matter where you are in your journey. Remember to give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Remember to push yourself. Remember that you’re making yourself better one step at a time. Don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t doubt yourself, don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Challenge you. Become your best you.

And then I asked everyone : What is one thing that you tell yourself that helps you get in the right mindset for the day?

The majority of the responses concluded that other than working on fitting it in, they tell themselves that THEY are their own competition.

There were many times during my journey where I did NOT love myself. Where all I was looking at was an end goal. Where I was way too hard on myself. Where I beat myself up. Where I compared myself to everyone else. How did I change that mindset? It’s taken time. And patience <—oh that dreaded word. Winking smile And people to support me who see the best in me. And practice. And guess what? I’m still practicing. I wrote about that here too: I’m Still Learning to Love Myself Too. I wrote about having cellulite, and despite this fact, reminding myself why I love and appreciate my legs and body. I feel that practicing loving yourself will be a lifelong journey. There’s no end goal with no upkeep. Just as you have to maintain muscle and body composition, you have to maintain your mental game. Reminding yourself that you truly do love yourself will be an ongoing journey. The journey will change over time, get simpler, less arduous, and loving yourself will become more of a natural response, which is the goal, just like sweating daily becomes more natural and becomes a habit over time. That doesn’t mean you don’t have to work at it, but that’s partly why it’s so rewarding.

How to: Learn to Love Yourself in 10 Steps:

  1. Change Your Choices: Decide to change just your next choice. This turns into changing the choice after that. And the one after that too. Decide that next time you look in the mirror you will find something you like or love about yourself instead of something you want to change. Decide that next time you see something you do want to change about yourself, take a step to change it, and get rid of the anxiety you have about it, because you have the power to choose who you are by the choices you make. You don’t like that your jeans don’t fit? You have a couple options. You can get larger jeans and rid the anxiety, or you can choose to lose the weight you want to lose, take the first step towards that, and rid the anxiety, since you know you’re going in the right direction. Large changes and large turn-arounds are a compilation of small choices, every single day, that band together and have the ability to change your life in a relatively short amount of time. And when you do make these choices, be proud of yourself for making a better choice each day than you did the day before.
  2. Be Your Own Best Friend: Practice positive self-talk. You can be your own worst enemy, as well as your own best friend. There has been this movement where people think they have to shake off compliments, put themselves down and can’t promote themselves or say good things about themselves without making someone else feel bad or being called a self-centered person. SELF-LOVE AND POSITIVE SELF-TALK IS NOT A CRIME. Of course there’s a way to do this, talk to yourself and love yourself in a way that is positive for everyone. The bottom line is that you can be your own best friend, your own best cheerleader. And this starts in your own head, right between your own two ears. Next time you hear your own mind say something negative about yourself, cut it off, and replace it with something positive. You hear your own mind say to yourself, “you’re fat”? Cut that off. Say to own mind and yourself, “I’m not fat. I have some fat I want to get rid of. And because I have the power to choose who I am by the choices I make, I can get rid of some of that fat if I want to. I want to. I will get rid of some of that fat starting now with the next choice I make.” It can be about anything: my hair is too this, my nose is too that, I don’t have that skill, my x, y, and z suck. No. None of it sucks, none of it is too this or that, and you don’t not have the ability to gain any skill. You can make yourself what you want to be, so remind yourself that through how you talk to yourself in-between your own ears. If you do something well – PRAISE YOURSELF. If you do something poorly, ENCOURAGE yourself to try again. You’d never talk to your best friend, your sister, even your acquaintances like that – so stop talking to yourself like that, and right now. Be your own cheerleader. BE IN YOUR OWN CORNER. Start making the place between your ears a positive, uplifting place. It costs nothing. You get to start now!
  3. Say Thank You: Learn to take compliments from others. This is simply said, but not simply done, for the reasons above. We’re afraid to have big egos, to make others feel bad. When I compliment someone, it’s because I love their earrings, or because I think they’re beautiful inside or out, or because something they did resonated with me. Them saying thank you means they’ve acknowledged the good in what they’re doing or being. Saying thank you doesn’t mean they’re self-centered. It means they’re aware enough of themselves to be and do good. Next time someone compliments you or says something nice about you, smile at them, and say thank you, genuinely. This changed my life. Once I stopped saying, “Oh, I got lucky,” or “Oh, that’s not really as good as you thought,” or “Oh really? I didn’t like my hair this morning,” and instead, just learned to smile and say thank you, I felt a WHOLE LOT BETTER ABOUT MYSELF. Speak positively to yourself, about yourself, and learn to take compliments from others.
  4. Stop the Judgment: Practice positive thoughts about others. You’re going to start being in your own corner, thinking and speaking positively about yourself, and saying thank you when someone compliments you. Just as you owe this to yourself, you owe this same consideration to others. I’ve written about this before, and especially working in the emergency room where I see many people on the worst days of their lives, you never know what someone is going through. You just don’t. Judging why someone is overweight, or judging why someone isn’t well put together, or judging why someone is this, that, or the other thing, won’t help you feel better about yourself. When I didn’t have the confidence about myself and the love I have for myself, I saw myself putting others down and judging others in my own head or aloud because of my own insecurity. It had nothing to do with them. It had everything to do with me and how I felt about myself. I thought and said things because the psychology in my head told myself that if I made someone else look worse, I wouldn’t look as bad as I felt about myself. How do you fix this? One – by starting your own positive self-talk and stomping those insecurities away. And two – by every. single. time. you think a negative thought or say a negative thing about someone else, stop yourself or vow not to do that again. Instead, change that negative into a positive. Maybe that person who is obese had a major accident and has been on bed rest for a year, and is just lucky to be alive. Maybe that person who is disheveled just had the love of their life pass away. Maybe that person who is this, that, or the other thing, is an amazing person. No one is 100% all the time. Everyone has bad hair days, everyone has different viewpoints on life, everyone has different lifestyles. Be the best you that you can be and talk positively to yourself. Give others that same consideration, and your life will change for the better. You’ll get to know people you’d have otherwise judged, and maybe that will change your life. Opportunities open up for people who give themselves and others consideration. The golden rule, treat others as you’d like to be treated, always applies. And it applies in your thoughts too.
  5. Stop Comparing Yourself to Anyone Else: Learn to appreciate yourself and others separately, and appreciate the differences that are present. You’re going to start thinking about and talking to yourself and others positively. Appreciating everyone’s differences will help this along. Comparing yourself to others is a trap. You cannot ever look like me, and I cannot ever look like you. We’re different down to the cellular level. Our upbringings are different, the people in our lives are different, our career paths are different. Your best is different than my best. And that is OK! Actually, it’s more than ok. It’s amazing. How boring would life be if we were all the same? If there was no variety? Appreciating this variety and these differences will give you peace in regards to yourself. It’ll remind you that you don’t have to be all of what he or she is, that you’re different, and you’re great in your own way, and that decreases anxiety. Perfectionism and comparing yourself to others are futile. It won’t get you anywhere. Take inspiration. It’s okay to say to yourself that you love what her shoulders look like and want to make yours the best yours can look. Saying you want her shoulders is unrealistic and futile, because even if you work your deltoids to death and eat as close to perfect as you can, your shoulders will NEVER be her shoulders. It’s physically impossible. No shoulder transplants please. Winking smile Remember that we each have weaknesses, we each have strengths. Appreciate others’ strengths, even if they’re different than yours. Know your weakness, and improve upon them, but do just that and don’t beat yourself up about those weaknesses <— positive self-talk, remember? This leads me to my next thought … appreciate others differences but work on being your best YOU, not your best them, since that’s impossible!
  6. Work on Being your best YOU:  The quote, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.” by Oscar Wilde used to baffle me. I never understood. Everyone else is taken? What? I didn’t get it. I now understand this perfectly and it’s one of my favorite quotes I’ve ever heard. It’s impossible to be someone else, it’s impossible to have their looks, it’s impossible to be in their brain. Have you ever noticed that no one notices all the little imperfections you’re stressed about? Have you ever been so embarrassed or stressed about something that you then come to realize that no one has even noticed? When I first started to see this, and first started to see how I was very anxious about little imperfections (perfectionist much? Yep, definitely used to be. Now I work on being excellent, not perfect. There IS no perfect!) but then no one even took a second glance, it was an eye opener. When I first started talking about this, I told my brother, “We’re not that important. Everyone is worried about something on themselves, no one even notices what you’re worried about.” That was a poor description, and it’s not that we aren’t important, but it was important break through in my mind. Now I understand that it’s that we’re WAY MORE important than those little things. That people care about the kind of person we are, not how big our pores on our face are, or if we slip up a word or two in a sentence. People care about the whole picture, the whole being, not that a few hairs are out of place on the top of our head. And those little imperfections? Those are beautiful, and I have come to embrace them. Remember that you’re beautiful. All of you. That weird freckle? Those funky baby hairs? That big butt? Or crooked nose? Someone thinks that those are all beautiful. Let’s make that first someone yourself. Be your best you, be yourself, be a good person, heck – BE THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE – it’s a whole lot more important than the small imperfections. Don’t put that pressure on yourself. Instead, work on making yourself better, through every single choice you make, and being your best you. Everyone else is taken.
  7. Surround Yourself with Support: Surround yourself with people who want to empower you. Surround yourself with people who care about you. Surround yourself with people who want to make you better. They say that you’re a compilation of the people you spend the most time with. The people you let into your life and spend valuable time with, whether on purpose or accident, shape you. Your environment shapes you, and there’s nothing more powerful than the people in your world. Respect yourself enough to stop spending time with people that don’t make your world a better place, that don’t help you grow. Quality over quantity. Finding that one or two or three people that are your rocks, that will change your world. For me, it’s my boyfriend and my brother. That’s not a whole lot of people. I choose to spend the most time with them that I can. Why? Both of them care about me to the core. They don’t care if my hair is sticking out every which way, I have no make up on, and my clothes are all mismatched. They care that I’m happy and healthy, and they’ll do anything they can to help me better myself and be there when I need them. It can be anyone. And remember, if you feel like you have no one, look at yourself. Make sure you’re open to BEING that support for someone, and more than likely, you’ll have an inpouring of support as well. Surround yourself with people that empower you, instead of tear you down. Above we talked about how insecurity can cause you to judge someone, tear them down because it has everything to do with you, and not them. If you empower others, and surround yourself with people who empower you, there’s nothing you can’t do. Impossible becomes I’m Possible with support and empowerment.
  8. BE the Inspiration You Want to See. Inspire and Empower Someone Else: Just as you want others to support you, inspire you, and empower you, you can be that for someone else. Just like I talked about how Betty Rocker inspires me, and how I feel lucky enough to be that person for others, it’s a paying it forward kind of deal. Be who you want to be, give what you want to be given, smile like you want to be smiled at, and you’ll gain all that in return. Be the person you want others to be to you. Nothing is more motivating than knowing you’re someone else’s inspiration or motivation. BE the inspiration you want to see. THAT ALONE, will empower you.
  9. Two words. Patience and Practice: Give yourself the gift of patience. All of this takes time and practice. In the instant gratification culture we live in today, it’s so easy to look at this post I’ve written and say to yourself, “BUT I JUST WANT TO LOVE MYSELF NOW!” It’s easy to wish that just reading this post would cure every insecurity you’ve ever had. And I get that. And you can. Start with your next choice. Your next thought. Bring positivity into your world. Fight tooth and nail to get rid of negativity, from your thoughts, your actions, your life. Every choice you make and thought you have shapes your world and who you are. Practice making yourself your best you every day, and have patience, knowing that every choice you’re making counts and that you are on your way. You’re on your journey of and to self-love and love of others.
  10. Be Thankful. There are many people that have much less and have many more obstacles than you’re facing currently. Your obstacles are valid, and not unworthy of appreciation, but understanding the notion that it could always be worse and to be thankful for all that we have helps us love where we are and who we are while we better ourselves and our lives. This is exactly why if motivation is lacking for me, all I have to do is think about someone who WISHES they had four working limbs to sweat with and that makes me work harder. It’s the little things to be thankful for, and in turn, it will encourage your self love even more.

My hope is that these 10 steps to take help you strengthen your mental game. With every choice and every thought, strengthen yourself. That alone should start your own self-love. Self-love can give way to so many opportunities, decrease so much anxiety. It will change your world to take a few of these simple steps, and practice them daily.

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My #Sweatfor5 October challenge (sweat for 5 minutes a day with me and have a chance to win swag!) is getting into full swing and everyone is ROCKING IT. I am so incredibly proud of all of you!! Here’s a recap of days 2-7. I just wanted to remind you all how proud I am of you and that I’m honored you’re spending 5 minutes every day with my during your october and making sure to fit it in. I believe in all of you, keep rockin’ it and showing me what you’ve got!! Even if you missed the first week, you can still join!! Lots of swag up for grabs as prizes! Sign up here: #Sweatfor5 Challenge!

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Have a fantastic monday! Start your week off rockin’!

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Live Your Passion

Posted August 30, 2013 By electrafi

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“Our intention creates our reality.” -Wayne Dyer.

I truly believe that if you are passionate about what you do, work hard, and give the best of yourself, you will be able to live the reality you desire. I believe that positivity, determination and love will take you far. I believe that a smile can make all the difference in the world. Embracing and respecting yourself while moving forward to better yourself is an amazing portrayal of strength.

Take action, know your intention, and make your passion your reality! If you don’t know where to start … let me help you. What is your intention in life? What do you feel your purpose and passions are all about? What would you love to spend your time doing if you had no responsibilities? You can make that your reality. First ask yourself that question, and then don’t sit idle. Take steps every day to make that intention your reality!

What is your biggest dream? It’s never to late to start! I believe you can do it!

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I’m Still Learning to Love Myself Too

Posted July 25, 2013 By electrafi

Who here is still learning to love themselves? For everything you are and for everything you want to be?

I sure am.

I know my site is specifically about creating a strong mental game and self-love through sweat and healthy foods, but that doesn’t mean I too, am not working on being my best me and loving myself unconditionally, just as you are. I work every day on my mental game, my self-love, sweating, eating healthy and right for not only my body, but my mind as well. I do a REALLY great job most of the time. I have worked REALLY hard to get to where the majority of my time is spent with a positive outlook of myself and the world around me. Does that mean I’m perfect? Hardly. There are days that are easier than others.

I recently had a few days that were tough in the self-love department, for many reasons. I didn’t have my normal energy. Someone close to me pointed out cellulite near my booty when I was wearing shorts. (For the record – I love my legs and my booty. Always have – which made this difficult.)  I didn’t fit into some clothes I hadn’t tried on in a while (granted – these clothes were bought when I had disordered thoughts about eating, leading my body to be smaller than it is now, so it’s not bad I didn’t fit into those clothes).

Why does having cellulite lead our hearts to sink? Until 1960, cellulite was not even ever talked about – it was only referred to medically as a “secondary sex characteristic” – much as breasts are for a woman. Why is one secondary sex characteristic the apple of every ones’ eye, but another is the bane of any woman’s existence? That makes no sense.

Why does not fitting into clothes lead our hearts to sink? A size up often means more muscle, sometimes means more body fat. Why is this fact so emotional? Why does a size four or six create frustration? Why is a size zero the ideal? I fit into a size zero at one point. That point was when I had a disordered thought process in regards to both food and exercise. I was unhealthy at that point. Unhealthy and disordered led me to size zero. Healthy, balanced, learning self love has lead me to a size four to six-ish. What’s the ish? All sizes are subjective depending on brand. Many people would give an arm and a leg to be a size four or six. Again – I’m not into comparing, but just stating a fact. Why did this bother me? It is not bad I don’t fit into some of my smaller clothes, in fact, I am proud of myself. Shopping trip anyone? ;-)

When I cringe or feel tears welling up in my eyes in response to cellulite or not fitting into certain clothes, it makes me mad. Mad at myself for letting trivial things affect me. Mad at the media for portraying perfect as skinny with a thigh gap. (For the record, I think there are many types of beauty, and thin is beautiful as long as it’s natural and not obtained through unhealthy manners.) Mad at the media for creating unrealistic expectations for women by portraying photo-shopped women as ideal. Mad at the culture for not fighting back more. Mad at our parents for believing these things and hating themselves, leading to a poor example for us growing up. Mad at the clothing industry for continually making sizes un-true to size. Mad at just about whoever I could be mad at for this.

But then I realized something.

How I react is up to me. I have control over how I react to anything. To any situation. To any comment. To any feeling. I then put on my big girl pants, took a deep breath, and reminded myself I am worth loving. I reminded myself there are many great people in this world fighting back against this idea of “perfection,” this idea of “skinny,” this idea of “deprivation” being where it’s at. That is not where it’s at. Self-love and appreciation is where it’s at. I then reached out to a source I knew wouldn’t let me down. I browsed over to Go Kaleo, where I was sent immediately to these links:

I read these links.

I then reminded myself what so many people who have been injured or been in accidents wouldn’t give to have some cellulite on their legs that worked. THIS ALWAYS PUTS LIFE IN PERSPECTIVE FOR ME.

 I then started going through the things my body does for me. 

My body…

  • Puts up with me working 12-16 hour shifts of being on my feet in the ER.
  • Helps me run around, do CPR, save lives in the ER.
  • Sweats while I exercise.
  • Jumps when I want to jump, and jumps even when I am tired.
  • Runs when I want to run scratch that, I seldom want to run. But it runs for me when I dig deep and get it done.
  • Goes through workout routines I put together, my friends put together, strangers put together.
  • Has intimate moments with the love of my life.
  • Hugs the people I care about.
  • Makes food to nourish my body.
  • Digests food, burns fat, builds muscle.
  • It gains fat – and this doesn’t always have to be bad. After being too lean, my body gained fat to make me healthier even after I wasn’t nice to my body.
  • Bounced back after I was hard on it, and reminded me when being resilient is all about.
  • Reminds me if what I am eating is good for me or not – cue intuitive eating.
  • Smiles, laughs, houses my eyes so I can see the world and all it’s beauty, and all the ugly things too. (The sun isn’t as bright when there’s no rain, right?)

All of these things allowed me to remind myself why I am thankful for my body. Why my body is great. Why I do love myself. Why I am thankful for everything I can do. Why a few dimples on otherwise strong and sexy legs don’t matter. Why those dimples are actually great – they’re great because I am a woman, and I’m fertile. And that’s important to me.

 These are not legs to be ashamed of, cellulite or not.

 These legs are legs to be proud of!

So let’s shout it from the rooftop, or at least tell ourselves when we look in the mirror every day, how much we love our bodies, and remind ourselves of every wonderful thing they do for us. I am proud of all of you, and yet surprised again at how excited I am to share raw, personal things with all of you. You all ROCK!

P.S. Head on over to visit Katie at She Rocks Fitness for some more motivation about strong being beautiful (she is AWESOME!)! She highlighted me in her post today, and I am honored. She also shared a killer 30 minute workout I think y’all (in honor of her recent move to Texas!) will love!

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  • What are some things that you have to overcome when it comes to self-love?
  • What is something you love about yourself?
  • What do YOU do when you have a tough day?
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